WHY BE YOURSELF, WHEN YOU CAN BE WHO EVERYONE WANTS YOU TO BE.
What words Can I use you describe the FALSE SENSE OF SELF??
Does it refer
to a constant state of pretense? Otherwise known as being fake. Or does the
term refer to being comfortable and confident in everyone else’s perception of
our character?
If you guessed
the latter then you probably have an insight to what this post may potentially
be about.
I had a mini epiphany during
the year… well, not so much an epiphany more like the intelligent section of
a rather pointless four-hour phone conversation with a good friend. In
which I realised, that I had spent most of my teenage years playing a
character. A character that I was comfortable within, and more importantly one
that everyone liked and accepted. As you would when you land your first
acting gig I was careful not to break out of character.
Ensuring that my actions, thoughts and words were reflective of this
pleasing side of me. So much so that I suppressed anything else
that didn’t conform to this already perceived personality. To make
matters worse I don’t even have an Oscar to show for it.
What is
interesting anyhow is that this character was derived from a facet of
my personality. So no, I wasn’t being fake. But was I was being
true to myself? And if so, to what extent? Which brings me to my question. Does
the version of who we think we're supposed to be, or the version of ourselves
that everyone else is well acquainted with; really equate to us being
true to ourselves? Or rather does the term “true to self” refer to a
state of complete acceptance of the multiple dimensions that form
our personalities.
Now
I could go
on and on about the problem with consciously amplifying desirable
aspects of our personality and suppressing less desirable ones.
However I’m going to keep it short and sweet. Firstly and quite frankly life
is to short to spend it fitting in to a status quo. I mean did High School
Musical teach you nothing!! Now to adapt a more serious tone. When
we constantly play a perceived character it, seeps into our subconscious, and
the distinction between our real selves and the character begins to blur.
More often than not, this then leads to an inexplicable
inner conflict...you know, the ones we tend to go through at puberty but
still suffer from in mild doses during adulthood. And trust me going
through life conflicted and not sure whom you really are is EXHAUSTING! So
why waste all that energy. When you could make the conscious decision to
be true to whom you really are.
I
generally don’t like to end with a distinctive conclusion, partly because
I never have a good ending. But mostly because my thought process
and opinions change, as I grow and definitive endings don’t leave much
room for change. Who knows my next post might be about faking it till you
make it LOL I joke I’m really not that sporadic. What I would say is the most
rewarding part of my journey has been finding true joy in wholly accepting
every facet of my multi dimensional, unusually quirky and slightly clingy
personality. In doing so I have been fortunate to be surrounded by people who
are willing to accept and accommodate all of me… the good the bad and
the not so attractive.
“Authenticity
is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and
embracing who we are.”
~Brené Brown
Till Next Time
Love Tee
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